Picture this: Champagne, candlelight, a man at the door who craves commitment. Does it sound like every woman’s ultimate fantasy?For ages the world has been trying hard to figure out what’s going on in a woman’s head? What does a woman want: the quintessential question? The answer: champagne, candlelight, a man at the door…most of the times. The stuff most women fantasize about.
It’s not hard to understand actually…women do fantasize. A woman’s fantasies are certainly not limited. All have their own peccadilloes. If your body hasn’t been called “perky” since Gymboree, in fantasy you can give yourself permission to swing naked from a crystal chandelier. Here’s another favourite: a rustic cabin in the woods, pink Champagne and Benicio Del Toro. The reality: a cramped studio in the city, Diet Snapple and a guy who hogs the remote. Don’t get me wrong; I’ve got nothing against the keeper of my remote. It’s just my fantasy and reality never find common ground. But we still continue to fantasize. And yes, if it involves sex, it’s all the better.
Nothing beats a good sex fantasy. Even researchers agree. Linda Wolfe a famous author studied a sample of 15,000 women aged 18-34 years, and less than three percent said they never fantasize. It was seen that females are more likely to prefer erotica with a “softer,” more imaginative side than the “harder,” more explicit forms preferred by males.
Dr. Nimish Seth, psychologist says: “There’s no such thing as an inappropriate fantasy. A lesbianfantasy is not proof that you’re gay; a dominatrix fantasy doesn’t mean you ought to run right out and invest in a pair of leather pants. Whether you choose to explore your fantasies-however mild or wild they may be-is up to you. But by all means don’t hesitate to let your imagination jump-start your body into a sexier sex life. Sometimes a girl needs a jolt of adventure-if only in her daydreams”.
Types of sexual fantasies
Almost all sexual fantasies fall into one of the three general categories:
Sex with previous, imaginary, or celebrity partners
Sexual fantasies about submission and/or dominance
Unconventional sexual practices or settings
Nihal Seth, a young entrepreneur points out that “now sex fantasy is the safest, healthiest way to have more fun in bed.” The occasional fantasy is to sexual pleasure what green chutney is to chicken tikka: that little something extra that elevates the delicious to the sublime!
The world is not perfect. We all know that. It’s not always possible for us to get what we want. This is where fantasies help. Pooja Bedi, Bollywood actress, says that “every woman wants her man to be James Bond who holds the image of tall dark handsome and also has a kid within him. Women still fantasize with fairy tales”.
Aarti (name changed), 24, a marketing manager admits, “I fantasize my husband tying me to the bed and spanking me, abusing me and playing hard on me. It makes me feel like a wild cat waiting to be controlled.”
Think of your sexual fantasies as a reflection of who you are. Fantasies may supplant reality for some. Pragya goes as far as to describe, “I often imagine myself stuck with a stranger in a dingy room during a calamity. Finally we end up making wild love amidst all the rush and hurry. It excites me to the core.”
Devyani Pandit, a PR professional, says: “Doing it in bed gets boring after some time and we can explore new avenues. Our upbringing also at times acts as mental blocks as we struggle with feeling okay about our desires”. The good news is that everyone can have sexual fantasies; it’s just that some of us need a little more inspiration than others.
So the next time your woman seems to be wandering off in thought, you’ll know exactly what’s on her mind!
Men believe that the perfect girlfriend is the one who has a high sex drive, enjoys a hearty meal and gets ready to go out in 10 minutes.Apart from this, the perfect girlfriend is a career-minded woman who earns more than their partner but at the same time wants to stay at home and bring up the children.
The clue to these seemingly contradictory demands lies in the men polled, 3,000 bachelors.
Near the top of their girlfriend checklist is the requirement that she should have a “pert bottom” – which may explain why they are still single.And while three-quarters of the men polled said their ideal woman would keep her weight in check, 89 per cent also wanted her to tuck into a big meal without worrying. These perfect ladies will have luscious long hair, be skinny and trim and confident enough to go out without make-up.
“While many women might find these standards hard to live up to, six in 10 men firmly believe their perfect girlfriend is out there somewhere. However, there are a few contradictions which might make it hard for them to get their ideal date,” the Daily Express quoted Nicole Clowes, spokeswoman for UKDating , which carried out the poll, as saying.
“There aren’t many women who can tuck into a mountain of food every day and stay skinny. And there is some confusion about whether men would like to date a high earner or someone who stays at home with the children.”
The ability to hold an intelligent conversation isn’t a big concern for men – 61 per cent prefer someone who likes a laugh and a joke.
For a stressed out nation, sex has become the new contraceptive, reports Indrani Rajkhowa Banerjee
Real estate agent Virender Rathod observed an interesting trend in his life. His sex life was up when the property prices peaked and nosedived when they came down! It didn’t take the shrewd businessman much to calculate that when he was stressed, he was less frisky in bed. Funny it may be, but not every infertility story is humorous.
Stress and sex make for strange bedfellows! Although there are no exact figures, experts say infertility has gone up to almost 30 per cent in the last two decades. And stress remains the most important killer for activity between the sheets.In a dog-eat-dog world, where work hours have expanded and leisure time shrunk, spouses hold each other’s hand with cell phones stuck to their ears. Laptops and phones are must-haves on vacations. In a nuclear family, working couples who pick up their children on their way home to ready-to-eat dinners are ideal couples. Divorce rates have never been this high in history, yet there’s no time to grieve or pick up the pieces readmorehttp://engagemalaysia.wordpress.com/2012/02/05/sex-has-become-the-new-nontraceptive-psychological-impotence-is-the-real-killer-of-physical-love/
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