SEXUALITYLet your man be the king as you take charge to set the ball rolling for a night full of action.
Remember, more than your technique of seduction, it's your attitude that makes the final cut. What all you really need is to be able to arrest his attention and his body is all yours. You need not be a hot babe to seduce your guy, just try to keep your approach right.
Take the lead
Men love to be dominated in bed. So if not always, then once in a while take up the task of leading the action in bed and initiating the intimacy. If your guy loves to see your wild side then there is no better way than this technique.
Neha Tyagi, a house wife says, "I gave my man a surprise call in office and in a passionate voice I whispered that a sexy surprise awaited him at night at home. Then I left a note at the doorstep which declared, 'beware of the tigress' that I wanted him to find minutes before he stepped into the main doorway. I slipped into some revealing, lacy lingerie and lit up the bedroom using fragrant candles, rose petals and some instrumental music. Already expectant with the hints that I had dropped throughout the day, he entered the bedroom with a lot of expectations. My killing looks, a heady embrace and a wet kiss left him breathless and raring to go. I was pleasantly surprised to see my man enjoy me take the lead even in foreplay as I blind-folded him and seduced him."
Sexual chemistry is a vital element of any healthy relationship and it's not always fair to blame your male companion for not putting in enough efforts and being unadventurous. Sudhanshu Kapoor, a banker says, "Men usually take care of their partner's pleasure, but it should be the same for the fairer sex. If we talk about equality in all spheres of life, what's the problem if we expect our partners to be adventurous in bed?"
Expert Tip: Dr Sameer Parikh, psychiatrist opines, "Most of the men look forward to a women who is a perfect blend of a tigress and a kitten. You have to learn to manipulate the imagination of your man. Men are really fond of women who are self confident seductress, who know what they want and how to get it. The idea is not to reach an orgasm only but to attain a feeling of contentment. That can only be done by taking care of your partner's needs."
My mother used to scold me when I was young for watching too many cop shows on television. She didn’t understand why I wasted my time watching them and devoted less time on my studies.
The cop shows were exciting and taught me many of life’s lessons I would not have gathered at home.
Later, I figured that the main reason why I like watching cop shows was because it provided me with an infusion of real-world good values through the heroic characters on the shows.
Many in my generation would remember the series called “Serpico” , the story about a brave New York City cop who risked his career, life and limbs to expose rampant corruption in the local police force in the seventies.
His actions forced the New York City Mayor to reform the local police force.
Coincidentally, the effort to clean the police force was done internally and did not require the formation of a special anti corruption department like the Malaysian Anti-Corruption Commission (MACC) here.
The reforms were executed by clearing the force of tainted officers and appointing fresh personnel with impeccable integrity.
There was no need to establish another layer of potentially corruptible bureaucracy like the MACC to investigate the police force.
Many of us would also remember the fictional character of Detective James “Popeye” Doyle who braved death every single day to expose the European and US drug trade. This, too, was in the 1970s.
Both these men preferred to use their wisdom to overcome obstacles and hated violence, especially in the use of firearms.
They were well respected and feared by their foes, and the public felt safer as a result. They were true heroes to the public.
Back to Malaysia, our policemen in the 1970s were like Frank Serpico and “Popeye” Doyle.
They went to work every day with the knowledge that they might not return home alive later in the evening. They had to contend with the threat of being assassinated by the communists and gangsters who bred fear in the public at that time.
The police force at that time was racially diverse and every officer, regardless of race, would risk his life in the line of duty. Their leaders were fearless and the courage of some dedicated officers ended with the assassination of the Inspector-General of Police (IGP) and a couple of state police chiefs.
They were our real life heroes and the police force gained the greatest respect from the public.
The late Tun Abdul Razak Hussein, who was the prime minister then, decided to embark on radical change of the force even though there was no obvious need at that time.
He decided to rejuvenate the police force and provide for its leadership needs of the next generation.
Tun Abdul Razak had appointed a junior officer, the 35-year-old Haniff Omar, later Tun, as the Inspector-General of Police in 1974 to change the police force when his predecessor died in a hail of bullets
Tun Haniff was one of the few university graduates serving as officers in the force at that time.
Under Tun Haniff’s leadership as IGP, the communist threat was finally eliminated. He also went after the gangsters who were running riot and threatened national security at that time. His men’s efforts resulted in the capture of the infamous Botak Chin in 1976.
The present day police force is a pale shadow of its heroic predecessors. They are now perceived as an incompetent and easily corruptible.
They are less feared by the petty and small time criminals, who continue to roam the streets and commit opportunistic crimes.
The professionalism and experience of the police force has declined as the officers prefer to be behind their desks than on the streets connecting with the people at large.
Their professionalism has further declined with the increased intake of supporting police officers in response to the demands from the public for increased police presence on the street.
This has resulted in burgeoning numbers of a young generation of police officers who only applied to join the force as a last resort. Thus, the new recruits lack dedication and integrity, and look at their responsibility as just another job.
They prefer to spend most of their time setting up mindless roadblocks all over Kuala Lumpur while petty thieves roam the streets around them brazenly.
They are no longer fearless as their predecessors and fear death now.
The killing of 14-year-old Aminulrasyid Amzah has exposed the mindless drone that poses as the typical officer of the Royal Malaysian Police today.
I am suspicious on the quality of job training given to the new generation of police officers. I would expect them to be trained to exercise greater wisdom when faced with potential dangers at roadblocks which are under their control.
I would expect them to be trained to use firearms in limited circumstances, and not be trigger happy and discharge their guns without a clear threat on their lives.
The shooting of Aminulrasyid clearly demonstrates the failure of the training programme of the police force.
Fact is, I don’t expect the Police Internal Inquiry Board tasked to investigate the case to find any wrongdoing and punish the perpetrators. These outcomes will increase distrust among the public in the police force.
The public will now have to add the police force as another threat, in addition to the thieves and crooks, to contend with in their everyday lives.
The policemen the public used to look up to as heroes are today zeroes in their eyes.
Maybe Tun Razak’s radical moves to change the police force has run its course and needs a new direction.
It is ironic that the person who needs to make the politically-painful overhaul is his son Datuk Seri Najib Razak.
I have high hopes that he will make the changes. The burning question, however, is will he be able to find Serpico or “Popeye” Doyle or another Tun Haniff Omar among the leadership of the police force today?
But he has to. For the sake of the people, and the country.
Datuk Nur Jazlan Mohamed is a two-term MP for Pulai. Apart from being in the new politics, he also writes for The Malaysian Insider while debating other matters atwww.jazlan.net
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Dr Mahathir and gang have undone all the supposedly good things he had done when he went after Anwar. Even for the die-hard skeptics, the first trial was enough to know that he was the one manifestly in error. However, Najib and Badawi strengthened the public’s opinion, and in fact the world’s opinion as well, when Saiful was thrust into the government orgy thereby obliterating all doubt and those confused.Dr. M had turned his dream on its head yet to all who thought that the opportunity had arrived to fill the political gaps through Anwar persecutions and the late Honorable Fadil Noor’s departure seems to be in constant tumble on every hurdle. None is spared, not even under the pretense of Dialogue; one simply cannot sly his/her way into extending any form of life to the current administrators’ Palace or Cabinet.Dr. M really understood what he had done to the country when he chose a coward such as Abdullah Ahmad Badawi to fill the gap where he so screwed up when he violently and illegally removed Anwar Ibrahim from office. Dr. M, I’ve to hand it to you – you really messed upBodowi should have protected the Dato Ramli Yusuf but he didn’t! He is just another idiotic guy lah! On the outside, he looks like a Mr. Clean but he is really not. One of my friend’s working in IJM Corp said that the last few days before Bodowi stepped down, he called the CEO of IJM Corp himself and asked for favours with contracts! So, there you go! Mr. Clean Bodowi my foot! He’s just as corrupted as the rest of the bloody umno gang! Bodowi celaka! Penipu rakyat!It is not the agung or the rakyat or UMNO who chooses the PM in Malaysia. It is the IGP. Polis Raja Di Malaysia.Maybe even the next chief of gangsters (kogsi gelap) in Malaysia also need the approval of the IGP. Those who don’t pay homage, gets killed like the mamak gang.IGP should be in possession of important dossier info pertaining to the crimes committed by TDM, TAAB and of course C4 guy, so how to get rid of hIsnfo/knowledge is power.This IGP Scoundrel has a dossier on every influential politician up there, ready to be made public, so who dares to get rid of this stain on Malaysian society, Of course he has all of the eating quietly out of his diseased jaundiced hands. Have you heard of Michael Jackson’s song “They don’t really care about us” Many thought he was being anti-Semitic, but actually he was telling people the world over that their so-called governments and politicians don’t really care about the people. So we shall have to take our fates into our own hands and make sure no one, but No One has the power to take our rights away ! Therefore, we need to overthrow this Barisan Najis Govt. and get a fresh Govt. in and with 2/3 majority so we can put in place safeguards for a True Civil Society The IGP protects his masters even if his masters are monsters. It’s not his pistol that evokes fear. The thought of him serving his masters for another 50 years under BN rule , instead of protecting the ordinary rakyat, is sending shivers down my spineIn Malaysia, politicking rids the lesser evil and maintain the worst evil untouched. Simply because the worst evil means more $$, more power and more vested interests to preserve and protect. The whole Nation knows it and the rakyat knows it. You do not kill the goose that lays the golden eggs. The IGP’s contract will expire on the 13th of this month. In fact, he actually retired way back in 2007 but in spite of the evidence that surfaced linking him to the Chinese crime syndicate they still extended his service on a two-year contract. Now it appears they are extending his contract yet again. Malaysians have very short memories. As Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad said: Melayu mudah lupa. Maybe we need to replay some of our old reports to remind you about how Malaysia’s IGP transformed into a PIG.
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theSEE VIDEO ON YOUTUBE HERE video is in bad taste. I mean, how can we make fun of Teoh Beng Hock’s death when we should instead be mourning him?
Raja Petra Kamarudin
‘Licensed’ loan sharks
Some local licensed money-lenders are using their licences obtained from the Housing and Local Government Ministry as a front to operate as loan sharks.it take a real dirtcop to rubbished a video posted on the website, Malaysia Today, allegedly showing police brutality during an interrogation.
State Commercial Crime Investigation Department chief Asst Comm Roslee Chik said police have identified the individuals who lend money at loan sharks’ interest rates.
“There was a case when a RM1,000 loan was given but the interest rate was so high that the amount turned to RM6,000 in six months.
Unsavoury ads: ACP Roslee and officers of the MPPP enforcement unit with some of the loan sharks’ posters which they removed during the operation in the Paya Terubong area Wednesday.readmore click belowhere
The return ofTHE MOST POWEFULMAN IN MALAYSIA The Quran says, God will not change the condition of a people, ’till they change themselves
Remember, more than your technique of seduction, it's your attitude that makes the final cut. What all you really need is to be able to arrest his attention and his body is all yours. You need not be a hot babe to seduce your guy, just try to keep your approach right.
Take the lead
Men love to be dominated in bed. So if not always, then once in a while take up the task of leading the action in bed and initiating the intimacy. If your guy loves to see your wild side then there is no better way than this technique.
Neha Tyagi, a house wife says, "I gave my man a surprise call in office and in a passionate voice I whispered that a sexy surprise awaited him at night at home. Then I left a note at the doorstep which declared, 'beware of the tigress' that I wanted him to find minutes before he stepped into the main doorway. I slipped into some revealing, lacy lingerie and lit up the bedroom using fragrant candles, rose petals and some instrumental music. Already expectant with the hints that I had dropped throughout the day, he entered the bedroom with a lot of expectations. My killing looks, a heady embrace and a wet kiss left him breathless and raring to go. I was pleasantly surprised to see my man enjoy me take the lead even in foreplay as I blind-folded him and seduced him."
Sexual chemistry is a vital element of any healthy relationship and it's not always fair to blame your male companion for not putting in enough efforts and being unadventurous. Sudhanshu Kapoor, a banker says, "Men usually take care of their partner's pleasure, but it should be the same for the fairer sex. If we talk about equality in all spheres of life, what's the problem if we expect our partners to be adventurous in bed?"
Expert Tip: Dr Sameer Parikh, psychiatrist opines, "Most of the men look forward to a women who is a perfect blend of a tigress and a kitten. You have to learn to manipulate the imagination of your man. Men are really fond of women who are self confident seductress, who know what they want and how to get it. The idea is not to reach an orgasm only but to attain a feeling of contentment. That can only be done by taking care of your partner's needs."
My mother used to scold me when I was young for watching too many cop shows on television. She didn’t understand why I wasted my time watching them and devoted less time on my studies.
The cop shows were exciting and taught me many of life’s lessons I would not have gathered at home.
Later, I figured that the main reason why I like watching cop shows was because it provided me with an infusion of real-world good values through the heroic characters on the shows.
Many in my generation would remember the series called “Serpico” , the story about a brave New York City cop who risked his career, life and limbs to expose rampant corruption in the local police force in the seventies.
His actions forced the New York City Mayor to reform the local police force.
Coincidentally, the effort to clean the police force was done internally and did not require the formation of a special anti corruption department like the Malaysian Anti-Corruption Commission (MACC) here.
The reforms were executed by clearing the force of tainted officers and appointing fresh personnel with impeccable integrity.
There was no need to establish another layer of potentially corruptible bureaucracy like the MACC to investigate the police force.
Many of us would also remember the fictional character of Detective James “Popeye” Doyle who braved death every single day to expose the European and US drug trade. This, too, was in the 1970s.
Both these men preferred to use their wisdom to overcome obstacles and hated violence, especially in the use of firearms.
They were well respected and feared by their foes, and the public felt safer as a result. They were true heroes to the public.
Back to Malaysia, our policemen in the 1970s were like Frank Serpico and “Popeye” Doyle.
They went to work every day with the knowledge that they might not return home alive later in the evening. They had to contend with the threat of being assassinated by the communists and gangsters who bred fear in the public at that time.
The police force at that time was racially diverse and every officer, regardless of race, would risk his life in the line of duty. Their leaders were fearless and the courage of some dedicated officers ended with the assassination of the Inspector-General of Police (IGP) and a couple of state police chiefs.
They were our real life heroes and the police force gained the greatest respect from the public.
The late Tun Abdul Razak Hussein, who was the prime minister then, decided to embark on radical change of the force even though there was no obvious need at that time.
He decided to rejuvenate the police force and provide for its leadership needs of the next generation.
Tun Abdul Razak had appointed a junior officer, the 35-year-old Haniff Omar, later Tun, as the Inspector-General of Police in 1974 to change the police force when his predecessor died in a hail of bullets
Tun Haniff was one of the few university graduates serving as officers in the force at that time.
Under Tun Haniff’s leadership as IGP, the communist threat was finally eliminated. He also went after the gangsters who were running riot and threatened national security at that time. His men’s efforts resulted in the capture of the infamous Botak Chin in 1976.
The present day police force is a pale shadow of its heroic predecessors. They are now perceived as an incompetent and easily corruptible.
They are less feared by the petty and small time criminals, who continue to roam the streets and commit opportunistic crimes.
The professionalism and experience of the police force has declined as the officers prefer to be behind their desks than on the streets connecting with the people at large.
Their professionalism has further declined with the increased intake of supporting police officers in response to the demands from the public for increased police presence on the street.
This has resulted in burgeoning numbers of a young generation of police officers who only applied to join the force as a last resort. Thus, the new recruits lack dedication and integrity, and look at their responsibility as just another job.
They prefer to spend most of their time setting up mindless roadblocks all over Kuala Lumpur while petty thieves roam the streets around them brazenly.
They are no longer fearless as their predecessors and fear death now.
The killing of 14-year-old Aminulrasyid Amzah has exposed the mindless drone that poses as the typical officer of the Royal Malaysian Police today.
I am suspicious on the quality of job training given to the new generation of police officers. I would expect them to be trained to exercise greater wisdom when faced with potential dangers at roadblocks which are under their control.
I would expect them to be trained to use firearms in limited circumstances, and not be trigger happy and discharge their guns without a clear threat on their lives.
The shooting of Aminulrasyid clearly demonstrates the failure of the training programme of the police force.
Fact is, I don’t expect the Police Internal Inquiry Board tasked to investigate the case to find any wrongdoing and punish the perpetrators. These outcomes will increase distrust among the public in the police force.
The public will now have to add the police force as another threat, in addition to the thieves and crooks, to contend with in their everyday lives.
The policemen the public used to look up to as heroes are today zeroes in their eyes.
Maybe Tun Razak’s radical moves to change the police force has run its course and needs a new direction.
It is ironic that the person who needs to make the politically-painful overhaul is his son Datuk Seri Najib Razak.
I have high hopes that he will make the changes. The burning question, however, is will he be able to find Serpico or “Popeye” Doyle or another Tun Haniff Omar among the leadership of the police force today?
But he has to. For the sake of the people, and the country.
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| Datuk Nur Jazlan Mohamed is a two-term MP for Pulai. Apart from being in the new politics, he also writes for The Malaysian Insider while debating other matters atwww.jazlan.net |
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THE KHINZIR TOYOL ON LOOSE
Raja Petra Kamarudin
‘Licensed’ loan sharks
Some local licensed money-lenders are using their licences obtained from the Housing and Local Government Ministry as a front to operate as loan sharks.it take a real dirtcop to rubbished a video posted on the website, Malaysia Today, allegedly showing police brutality during an interrogation.
State Commercial Crime Investigation Department chief Asst Comm Roslee Chik said police have identified the individuals who lend money at loan sharks’ interest rates.
“There was a case when a RM1,000 loan was given but the interest rate was so high that the amount turned to RM6,000 in six months.
Unsavoury ads: ACP Roslee and officers of the MPPP enforcement unit with some of the loan sharks’ posters which they removed during the operation in the Paya Terubong area Wednesday.readmore click belowhere
The return ofTHE MOST POWEFULMAN IN MALAYSIA The Quran says, God will not change the condition of a people, ’till they change themselves
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We also learned of a girl who didn’t know the details of reproduction and how babies were conceived until college because her parents repeatedly pulled her out of sex education classes. HEART has discovered that too many Islamic schools are not offering sex education at all, except in the context of the legalities surrounding ghusl and wudu. As for the Muslim children who attend public schools, too many parents remove them from sex education classes, afraid that the information might lead to promiscuity and believing such information is irrelevant for them because “our girls just don’t do that.” It is high time that we change this attitude, and start thinking seriously about providing our children with both culturally-appropriate and comprehensive education on reproductive and sexual health. In offering our youth this information, we should not automatically assume that they will then put it into practice. In fact, providing kids with information about their bodies equips them to make responsible decisions when faced with difficult situations. Whether or not we would like to acknowledge it, our kids do, in fact, face difficult situations in which they feel pressured to explore sexuality with their peers. If we continue to keep our kids in the dark about their bodies and sexuality, they will turn to other, often equally ignorant, sources to fill that knowledge gap. Why then are we so opposed to having a responsible, knowledgeable adult provide this knowledge and place it in an Islamic context for them? The controversy of bringing comprehensive sex education curriculum into the schools is not specific to the Muslim community, but rather American society at large. One of the major arguments against comprehensive sex education is that the information on safe sex, STDs and pregnancy will be counterproductive, encouraging young people to become promiscuous and experiment with sexual activity. Yet, according to the Guttmacher Institute, “evidence shows that comprehensive sex education programs that provide information about both abstinence and contraception can help delay the onset of sexual activity among teens, reduce their number of sexual partners and increase contraceptive use when they become sexually active.” Advocates for Youth continue to argue that “evaluations of comprehensive sex education and HIV/ STI prevention programs show that they do not increase rates of sexual initiation, do not lower the age at which youth initiate sex, and do not increase the frequency of sex or the number of sex partners among sexually active youth.” While these conclusions are generalized over the entire population, they are applicable to Muslim youth – increased knowledge of ones reproductive and sexual health will not necessarily lead to increased sexual activity among Muslim youth, especially if we discuss sex in a culturally-appropriate context. The Muslim community’s, and in particular the South Asian community’s, consistent refusal to discuss sex, is detrimental to the future of our daughters’, sisters’, and friends’ marriages. Young women often enter into marriage unfamiliar with their bodies and sexuality. It can take months, even years, for them to become comfortable with sexuality being a part of their lives, and not feel ashamed about it. As a result, they are labeled “prudes,” when in fact the problem really is that sexuality was never portrayed as a natural part of life to them, but rather something that one should feel embarrassed about and conceal. It is time we talk about sex openly with our youth as a natural part of life. We should not shy away from addressing their curiosity, and must be aware that low self-esteem and peer pressure often directly contribute to young people’s poor choices regarding their sexual activity. If we can move past the shock that our youth are, in fact, making decisions regarding their bodies, and instead focus on why they feel compelled to make these choices, we will be better equipped to address their needs. We can then facilitate the confidence Muslim youth need to understand the wisdom in delaying such behaviors until their Islamic values allow them. (Photo: Jayvee Mojar) Nadiah is co-founder and director of programs for the HEART Women & Girls Project. She recently earned her Masters in Public Health from the University of Illinois at Chicago. in the past she has been a consultant for the Office on Women’s Health (OWH) at the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services working on a variety of different projects focusing on HIV/AIDS awareness, American Indian/Alaska Native Health, and improving the health of Chicago. Prior to her work at the OWH, she worked on a research project focusing on improving the pregnancy outcomes of low-income Chicago women. She earned her bachelor degree in Public Policy Studies from University of Chicago and lives in Chicago with her two children and husband. Additionally, Nadiah is the Program Manager for American Muslim Health Professionals. |
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